ALIVENESS

A practical philosophy for living fully in the awareness that life is finite.

A few days ago I watched my two sons walk off down a jungle path on their way to a neighbour’s house to play Dungeons and Dragons with their new friends. No lift needed, or supervision. Just two boys heading off into the afternoon, buzzing with excitement and freedom.

As I stood there watching them skip away I suddenly realised that this was exactly what my wife and I had been dreaming of these last few months. We had wanted to find a modern, intentional community, close to nature where our kids could be free to roam where they want. And here it was, happening in front of me, living in a place I’d never heard of eighteen months ago.

Let’s rewind for a sec. We’re now living in the Costa Rican jungle, in a regenerative community called La Ecovilla, about an hour and a half west of San José.

The vegetables are grown on site in a gorgeous garden shaped in geometric patterns. There are fruit trees everywhere. Clean water you can drink straight from the source.

There’s a shared pool, a yoga shala for events and a posh co-working space. Once or twice a month there’s a potluck dinner with the neighbours. There are regular men’s groups, women’s groups and wellness modalities. I played volleyball two days ago and padel the week before. Most people here are entrepreneurs who quit their 9-to-5 lives, and it feels like a nurturing place to build our new lives and careers. We have been living here for three weeks now.

The jungle around us doesn’t stop moving. Creatures of all varieties everywhere. Toucans landed on the tree next to our house a couple days ago. Rivers crash over boulders bigger than houses. There’s noise and colour and something living in every direction you look. We even had a tarantula in our kitchen the other day which was super exciting!

The kids have settled into the community school, with classes of 7 or 8 kids max. We are sleeping very well and my body seems healthier than it has in ages.

A while ago, our life in England looked good from the outside, and parts of it genuinely were amazing. Awesome friends. Family. A home we renovated with love. A regular paycheque. Living in a vibrant town that turned out to be my ancestral home.

But some parts weren’t working, and we knew it. We could feel a pull toward a life closer to nature, with more freedom for the kids, more real connection with the people, more ceremony and meaning in ordinary days.

We had been flirting with a wild dream for years… to go travelling the world as a family. Because of my work with mortality, we became increasingly aware that we only have one life, that time is short and we made a decision that scared us.

We sold the house, let go of the version of life we’d built, and set off travelling the world as a family. It was hard. It was frightening. We grieved heavily. And there were plenty of moments we questioned it.

Were we crazy…?!

But as we travelled, the fog started to clear. We began to reflect and understand what we were actually looking for from life. And somewhere along the way we discovered these modern, regenerative communities… places built around exactly the things we’d been missing: deeper connection to the land, shared meals, children running loose and safe. Ultimately a rhythm of life that felt more alive to us.

I just want to be clear. The dream we had been postponing was to travel. Your dream might be very different. And sometimes the biggest changes in life are not big dramatic logistical shifts. They can be subtler, yet significant inner changes.

One brave decision led to a discovery. That discovery led to another brave decision. And each one carried us closer to a life that actually fit us. A life we could never have designed on paper because we didn't even know it existed. We just had to keep following the pull of instinct. Even when it frightened us, and trust that the next breadcrumb would appear.

One of the things that came clear on this trip was my work, and where Aliveness was actually heading. Before we set off travelling I didn’t have half the clarity I have now. If you remember, this newsletter used to be called ‘Dying To Live With Purpose’. I just knew I had to keep putting my ideas out there and trust it would take shape.

Last weekend, something happened that told me we’re exactly where we’re meant to be. I put my hand up to run an Aliveness workshop on my first weekend here, in front of my new community. I didn’t know a soul. Around fifteen strangers showed up. The response was great. They asked me to make it a monthly thing!

So now, because I threw myself into the deep end, I’ve got a living laboratory for Aliveness, right here among the people I’m starting to share this life with.

I know how this might sound. Like I’m describing some perfect dream from a distance. I’m not. It’s real, it’s ordinary, there are mosquitoes and mud and things that go wrong. But the foundation of it: the freedom, the nature, the connection, the aliveness of the place… are everything we set out to find without knowing we were looking.

It all comes when you step outside one’s comfort zone. Into expansion.

Watching my boys disappear down that path to play with their new mates, I thought about how far back the trail went. All the way to one scary decision we almost didn’t make.

One question this week.

Are you following any breadcrumbs? Do please share as it could inspire others.

Practice Aliveness HERE.

Thank you for being here. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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I am a former CEO, filmmaker, soul midwife and druidic bard. Several times in my life, I realised the life I was living no longer aligned with the person I had become. Each time, I found the courage to make a difficult decision, and each change led me closer to my purpose. I could never have imagined doing the work I do today. I created Aliveness with a dream that it becomes as impactful as Mindfulness: a daily practice that helps people live more bravely, leave fewer regrets and build a more present and generous world.

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ALIVENESS

A practical philosophy for living fully in the awareness that life is finite.

We can unconsciously spend our precious time making decisions based from fear.

Arguably the most powerful man who ever lived understood this, from inside a plague-ridden war camp two thousand years ago.

Picture the absolute ruler of an empire of fifty million people. Armies at his command… cities bearing his name… his face on every coin.

Now picture this man alone in a military tent on a freezing frontier, a plague tearing through his ranks, writing private notes to himself by candlelight that he never intends anyone to read. These notes go on to influence millions of people over hundreds of years, and his ideas are still as relevant as ever.

That man was Marcus Aurelius, Emperor of Rome. A bit like the reluctant character ‘Maximus’ from the film Gladiator, Marcus didn’t want the emperor job. He was pulled into power through adoption, and spent much of his twenty-year reign not in marble palaces but on the Danube, waging brutal war against Germanic tribes while the Antonine Plague killed scores of people.

His co-emperor died and his authority was challenged. He took up writing to steady his nerves and he wrote for an audience of one. Those notes survived by accident. We call them the ‘Meditations’, and people have turned to them for eighteen centuries.

One line is attributed to him above all others.

“It is not death that a man should fear. He should fear never beginning to live.” (Marcus Aurelius)

These words were written by a man surrounded by death every single day. There was plague in the camp, bodies on the battlefield and his own health failing.

He had every reason to fear dying. And yet, he’s telling himself the dying was never the thing to be afraid of. The real danger was reaching the end without having truly lived.

Here’s what I like so much about these words. Marcus was not obviously afraid of death, and when you look closer at your own life, it’s rarely death you’re actually avoiding. It’s something subtler… something that often seems responsible… and it’s called ‘postponement’.

I know this because I lived it. There was a period of about eighteen months when I was leading my company by day and secretly training as an end-of-life guide on the side.

I told almost no one what I was doing. I was terrified of being judged and of what people would think if they knew. I was worried if people found out the CEO was a death doula we’d lose sales. People would think I’d lost the plot, because in our world, death is the one subject you don’t raise. Even though it’s the only thing in life that’s guaranteed.

So I wore a mask to work every day. The ‘confident founder’, while the real me, the one being pulled toward mortality, presence, the things I actually cared about, stayed hidden underneath.

It made me physically and mentally ill. For weeks I sat in my car in the morning and cried before I could walk into the office, working the feelings out of my body so I could function, lead, be ‘responsible’.

I knew I had to change and yet, I delayed, and delayed, and delayed. Because I was scared. Not of death, but of being seen in my truth.

I believe this is the fear Marcus was pointing at. The fear of judgement, of stepping out of line, of being cast out for living as yourself. And these fears are astonishingly good at keeping us from ever beginning… which in turn keep us from really living.

What broke it for me was a casual curry night with very, very old friends. The kind of evening where you finally say the true thing. I told them how I felt going into work each day. And one of my friends simply said, “Mate… just change it.”

Boom. I drove home lighter than I’d been in a year. A few nights later, after practicing the Ultimate Meditation for several days, the whole path forward arrived in radical clarity: selling the house, taking the family around the world, stepping fully into this work. But it started with an ordinary sentence from someone who knew me and who I trusted.

Marcus Aurelius died in a military camp, far from home. But he had begun to live long before that, because he refused to let fear run the show, and he reminded himself, in the dark, what was actually worth being afraid of.

Most of us have the fear backwards. We’re frightened of the ending but I believe we should be far more frightened of never actually beginning.

One for your diaries

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This week’s question:

Where are you wearing a mask, and what would it take to drop it?

Thank you for being here. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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I am a former CEO, filmmaker, soul midwife and druidic bard. Several times in my life, I realised the life I was living no longer aligned with the person I had become. Each time, I found the courage to make a difficult decision, and each change led me closer to my purpose. I could never have imagined doing the work I do today. I created Aliveness with a dream that it becomes as impactful as Mindfulness: a daily practice that helps people live more bravely, leave fewer regrets and build a more present and generous world.

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ALIVENESS

A philosophy and practice for living fully in the awareness that life is finite.

On Wednesday and Thursday this week I ran my first virtual event… and I’m still coming down from it.

Thirty people gave up time to sit with me and do something most of us spend our whole lives avoiding. We looked at the fact that we’re going to die, and how that fact - paradoxically - can be a catalyst to unlocking our fullest potential in life.

We did the Ultimate Meditation, where you look back on your life from its final moments. We wrote letters from our ninety-year-old selves. We then did a Life Audit, an honest look at where the time is actually going. And we talked about the things that usually stay locked away. Grief. Fear. The rituals we’ve lost. The relationships we keep meaning to tend to. The playfulness that goes missing somewhere in adulthood.

We finished with the Aliveness practice itself. A simple daily check-in that keeps you acting on what matters, instead of quietly drifting away from it.

What struck me most, across both days, was how much lighter people seemed by the end. Not because we’d avoided the hard stuff…. because we’d finally turned and faced it. I am grateful for all those who attended. There will be more to come.

A man called Jeremy messaged me right afterwards to say:

Braving The Bright Side Podcast

The same themes ran through a podcast I was lucky enough to be a guest on recently. Daniel Bradley, the charming host of Braving the Bright Side, opened our conversation with these words, and I loved them.

“It’s funny. Every single one of us shares one really shitty habit. At some point on our journey through this weird, beautiful, mystical little planet, we postpone our lives.

We’ll call them tomorrow. We’ll chase that dream once there’s a bit more money. We’ll tell them we love them next time, because it feels kind of weird to say it right now. And somehow, later quietly stretches into years.

I’m wildly guilty of it myself. I’ll put off making a phone call so I can watch the same episode of Parks and Rec or Modern Family for the eighteenth time. Or I’ll wake up to a gorgeous summer day thinking, I should go see my dad, call up some old friends, head to the beach. But then Michael Scott starts his own paper company, and suddenly, well, I’ve got plans.

Maybe the problem isn’t that we don’t know our time is limited. Deep down, we all know that. Maybe the problem is that we keep living like it isn’t.

Because the moment mortality quietly pulls up a chair, it starts asking some uncomfortable questions. Are you spending your time the way you actually want to? Are you becoming the person you hoped you’d be? Are you still waiting for someday?

And strangely enough, that’s where life gets brighter. People matter more. Dreams get louder. Ordinary Tuesdays start feeling a whole lot less, well, ordinary.

Because that series finale is probably a lot closer than we’d like to believe. So maybe it’s time to start releasing some absolute banger episodes of your own life. The kind that’ll leave you with as little regret as possible.”

— Daniel Bradley

Huge gratitude to Daniel for having me on his show. Please click below to watch or listen to the full podcast. I’m afraid the audio quality is not the best for some reason.

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Thank you for being here. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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I am a former CEO, filmmaker, soul midwife and druidic bard. Several times in my life, I realised the life I was living no longer aligned with the person I had become. Each time, I found the courage to make a difficult decision, and each change led me closer to my purpose. I could never have imagined doing the work I do today. I created Aliveness with a dream that it becomes as impactful as Mindfulness: a daily practice that helps people live more bravely, leave fewer regrets and build a more present and generous world.

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ALIVENESS

A philosophy and practice for living fully in the awareness that life is finite.

Last Sunday I gave my first major Aliveness workshop, at Medicine Festival in the UK. I would be lying if I told you I was not nervous.

If you don’t know it, Medicine Festival is a gathering of 10,000 people and the largest wellness festival in the UK, built around connection, nature, indigenous wisdom and healing.

People come to learn from elders and traditions from around the world, eat healthy delicious food and generally reconnect with something deeper than everyday life.

You can enjoy experiential workshops, inspirational speaker and beautiful music of multiple genres (from world to house). It’s a place to talk about what it means to be alive, and I was honoured to be invited to present my work.

I was even more grateful to discover I had been allocated a prime time on the ‘Haven’ Stage which is a very generous venue. I had no idea of how many would turn up, but there was a massive queue and 170 people appeared!

I’ll let you in on a secret… I have always had a fear of public speaking. It’s not really the speaking, it’s the being seen. All those eyes on you, and the voice in your head narrating what you imagine they’re thinking. Makes me feel frozen inside as my mind comes up with stories like: Who does he think he is? What makes him qualified to stand up there and talk about such things as death, about how to live? Etc etc.

It’s a fear of judgement and for a long time it’s kept me postponing the very thing I most want to do, step into my truth, and have conversations about mortality and living fully. I find this conversation to be utterly fascinating, and I come alive inside because because it turns into a chat about human consciousness and evolution.

So this fear of judgement… if you follow that fear all the way down, you reach something older than any stage. The fear of being judged is really the fear of being cast out. For most of human history, to be exiled from the tribe meant you didn’t survive. Alone, you died. So we’re wired to dread the disapproval of the group as if our life depends on it, because once, it did.

Which means even this, the fear of me standing up and being seen, is at its root a fear of annihilation. This is the same for all fears. If you trace them far enough back they all grow from a need to survive.

So this wasn’t just a workshop. It was me practising aliveness in real time. Stepping straight into the fear I’d been avoiding.

The morning of my workshop I made sure to do the Aliveness practice. I lay in bed and pictured myself at the end of the day, lying back down in that same bed, satisfied, knowing I’d done the talk, and done it well. I held that warm fuzzy feeling for a while. Then I got up and went to make it real.

Just before I walked on stage, my wife and children found me. They wrapped me in a hug and wished me luck. Wow did that feel good. Then I stepped up in front of around 170 people, and we began.

We explored what Aliveness actually is. We did the practice together. We did the Ultimate Meditation, the one where you reverse engineer your life from how you want to feel at the end and see what truly matters most in your life.

A room full of strangers, going to that place together. It was beautiful.

And my fear? It lifted the moment I started. The dread was in the buildup, as usual.

What I hadn’t expected was what came afterwards. People stayed behind to talk. A whole queue of them, wanting to tell me what had shifted or arisen in them during the session. And it didn’t stop when the festival did. My phone has barely gone quiet since.

What people keep describing is the powerful clarity. Something about looking back at their life from the end shook loose an answer they’d been circling for months, sometimes years.

And with the clarity comes the rest of it. Relief. A lightness they hadn’t felt in a long time.

That’s what Aliveness does when it lands. It doesn’t just make you think differently. It changes how you feel, and what you do next. It’s the first step towards deeper potential and purpose in life.

That’s why I am dedicating my life to this and I’ve still got a LOT work to do. I want to grow Aliveness into a recognised philosophy and practice like mindfulness.

Thank you, Medicine Festival. I hope to be back.

LAST CALL FOR MY FREE EVENT - 26 & 27th Aug

Next week I’m running a free two-day event to help people standing in front of a big, daunting decision they haven’t yet made. Together we’ll find the first real step out of anxiety and toward your authentic life.

August 26th and 27th. 2x 90 min sessions. FREE.

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Thank you for being here. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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I am a former CEO, filmmaker, soul midwife and druidic bard. As I entered midlife I realised I was living a life that no longer aligned with the person I had become. So I changed direction and created Aliveness. I have a dream that Aliveness becomes as impactful as Mindfulness. A daily practice that helps people live more bravely, leave fewer regrets and build a more present and generous world.

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ALIVENESS

A philosophy and practice for living fully in the awareness that life is finite.

This summer I took myself to a small island in the Swedish archipelago, alone, and didn’t eat for three days, taking on minimal fluids.

It was my version of what people call a ‘vision quest’. Humans have done vision quests for thousands of years, across almost every indigenous culture.

You take yourself into the wilderness, without food and water, to sit and meditate and enter a state of deep insight. Aboriginal walkabouts, Druids in the forest, Yogis in caves. The term vision quest actually originates from Native American traditions.

I did my first vision quest three years ago in a forest in Somerset, with no tent, just myself, the trees and the wildlife. It was one of the most powerful experiences of my life and one that made me appreciate being alive, and all the daily comforts I often take for granted. This summer I felt the pull again.

I was scared, but my fear was all in the build-up. The days before, second-guessing, imagining what might go wrong, getting anxious as I ran the worst case scenarios. What if I couldn’t handle the hunger? What if something happened out there with no one around? What if, what if … ?

Any remaining anxiety dissolved away once I was dropped off on the island, found my spot, sat down under some lovely oak trees, and set my intentions for the days ahead.

Above all, I wanted to meditate on a concept that’s been growing in me for some time: how fear can point us where we need to go in life.

Sitting in nature like this is beautiful. Three days of extreme quiet, the kind you almost never get in our world of stimulation. The nights weren’t frightening so much as thrilling, lying there alone listening to the sounds of the island.

The second day was physically challenging as the the body begins to starve. Nausea and headaches creep in. There’s something else that happens when you go without food and water for days. Your body starts to register it as a threat to survival, because it is.

An older awareness begins to reveal itself. This is because, on one level, your body starts to die. As someone who is actively exploring mortality and aliveness, that’s why I am doing it - to exist for a while in the liminal space between life and death. To be deliberately out of my comfort zone and to gain the powerful insights, the ‘visions’ that are available in these liminal states. This is where life becomes super vivid and flow states of thought can occur.

Out there on the island, with nothing to distract me, one exhilarating idea arrived with a clarity that gave me goosebumps.

Before I get to that, let’s consider some everyday fear scenarios for a second. There’s the awkward conversation you might mentally rehearse for days, that takes three minutes. The email to your boss you stare at for hours before sending. The first time you step onto a stage, or press publish, or say the true thing out loud.

Fear can be overwhelming beforehand and almost always an anti-climax. You do the ‘scary’ thing, and then you realise it was not as scary as your mind led you to believe. And you often feel much better once you’ve done it.

We treat fear as a wall… a thing to break through, or a set of limiting beliefs to dismantle. But sitting in that forest, I started to think that fear might be something else entirely.

Here’s what I mean. Fear evolved to keep us alive. For most of human history the thing you feared could genuinely kill you: sabre-tooth tigers used to hunt our ancestors, for example.

So fear was survival, plain and simple. But today most of us have lives where almost nothing threatens us physically. However, the old wiring is still working in us, pulling strings. It just has very little real danger left to point at. It therefore floods the body with the same alarm our ancestors felt facing a predator in the dark, over things that can't actually hurt us.

Now let’s frame this through an evolutionary lens.

Think of the flying squirrel. Somewhere in the past a normal squirrel leapt from a tree to escape the bite of a snake. Over time the species grew the skin between their forearms and back legs that became wings. To make escape from death more effective this creature became a flying squirrel. The threat to the squirrel’s survival is what forced the adaptation.

You can track any adaptation of mortal creatures the same way, from plants to animals.

Humans are no different. We grow as individuals and societies when something frightening pushes us to do something brave that we’ve never done before. Without the fear or threat, we stay put. We never step into the unknown, and we never find out what we’re actually capable of. I believe that is how life works.

So our fear points at other things now. The new venture. The honest conversation. The change of career. The public speech. And we feel that ancient, full-body alarm and read it the way our ancestors did: Danger! Turn back!

But it isn’t danger. It’s just your edge of the known. The place where you stop repeating your life and start expanding it.

Which makes me wonder whether fear isn’t a wall at all, but an evolutionary force. At one end this force grows from our fear of death, the survival instinct, keeping us alive. At the other, the force pulls us towards where we’re meant to grow.

Ignore it, refuse to let this force lead you, stay safe inside the comfort zone, and life slowly contracts and withers. Resentment and regret build over time when we do not follow the pull of this force. And eventually we develop a fear of expansion itself.

Follow it, and it works like an inner gravity, pulling you toward the very things that would stretch and blossom you into someone larger and more beautiful.

‘Fear’, as a word, to me, has negative connotations. I am starting to wonder - are we even calling this force by the correct name? This ‘force’ feels bigger and more significant than the definition we have historically given it.

Every time my life has expanded for the better, it started with fear. The best decisions I’ve ever made were always the scariest ones. My mind always making things out to be worse than they were. And every scary decision, once made, turned out to be the doorway to a bigger life.

The pattern is so consistent in my life I’ve started becoming suspicious of prolonged comfort and started trusting fear. When something frightens me now, and it’s the type of fear that pulls me toward it (rather than just experiencing a recoil), I’ve learned to treat that as a sign post.

Fear is a compass you can tune into.

When you break the barrier and do the new thing, you discover it wasn’t the cliff edge your mind imagined. And on the other side is a version of you that’s more capable than the one who was afraid. This becomes a practice. The more often you step towards your fear, the braver you get, the more you expand.

I believe that's where our potential lives, both as individuals and as a species. Fear isn't the enemy and safety isn't the friend. Fear (or whatever this force might get called in the future) might be the very thing pointing us toward who we're meant to become, and toward the answers we're all looking for.

If this newsletter resonates, there’s a good chance you already know the decision your fear is pointing at.

In a couple weeks I’m running a free two-day event for exactly this - to help people standing in front of a big, frightening change they haven’t yet made. Together we’ll find the first real step out of anxiety and toward your authentic life.

August 26th and 27th. FREE.

Reserve your seat here

This week’s question

What are you dreading right now that you are also feeling drawn toward?

That combination - the fear and the pull together - is worth paying attention to. It might be your inner compass speaking.

Thank you for being here. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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I am a former CEO, filmmaker, soul midwife and druidic bard. As I entered midlife I realised I was living a life that no longer aligned with the person I had become. So I changed direction and created Aliveness. I have a dream that Aliveness becomes as impactful as Mindfulness. A daily practice that helps people live more bravely, leave fewer regrets and build a more present and generous world.

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I’m launching my first virtual Aliveness coaching event! It’s FREE to all subscribers and I’d love you in the room.

Drop the Mask, Reclaim Your Life

August 26th & 27th (2x 90min sessions)

8am PT / 11am ET / 4pm UK

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Who is the event for?

This event is aimed primarily at founders, leaders and creatives who have built an outwardly successful life and can quietly feel it no longer fits the person they’ve become.

Does this sound like you?

The difficult conversation you keep circling. The trip or sabbatical you earned years ago and still haven't taken. The passion project or career change that remains postponed. The anxiety that sits in your chest like a stone. The nights of poor sleep. The dinners where you're present in body but somewhere else entirely. And beneath it all, the fear you don't say out loud, even to those closest to you. That you have built a life that does not align with who you have become and the time to change it is running out.

The point is to face your big decision before a crisis or your health makes a change for you.

The event is constructed from the foundations of the Aliveness philosophy, and everything I’ve learned about how acknowledging our mortality can completely transform a life.

Here’s what to expect at the event:

• You’ll understand why we unconsciously drift in life, and how drift leads to inaction, regret and anxiety.

• You will then reverse engineer your life from how you want to feel at the very end, and write yourself a letter from your ninety-year-old self. This perspective brings radical clarity, and makes the decision you’ve been circling impossible to ignore.

• You will then work out what another five years of doing nothing really costs you in your time, your health and the people you love. This might just be the most important thing you ever do.

What are the outcomes?:

• You’ll get clarity on what your next chapter looks like and leave lighter than you felt in years.

• With this clarity on the path forwards, your sleep returns.

• No more Sunday evenings with dread.

• Your most important relationships improve.

• The revitalised version of you has their mojo back.

• You’ll also leave with the 2 minute daily Aliveness practice, so the clarity doesn’t fade by Friday.

This is all geared to help you make a considered decision, made properly. Most people find the change they need is smaller, and closer, than the one they’ve feared.

August 26th & 27th (2x 90min sessions) - FREE

8am PT / 11am ET / 4pm UK

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I have been incredibly grateful for your support as subscribers on Substack and I’m looking forward to finally meeting some of you in person at this event!

Don’t postpone what matters most as we don’t have unlimited time. This is what living with aliveness actually asks of us.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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I am a former CEO, filmmaker, soul midwife and druidic bard. As I entered midlife I realised I was living a life that no longer aligned with the person I had become. So I changed direction and created Aliveness. I have a dream that Aliveness becomes as impactful as Mindfulness. A daily practice that helps people live more bravely, leave fewer regrets and build a more present and generous world.

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ALIVENESS

A philosophy and practice for living fully in the awareness that life is finite.

Let’s start with this reminder: it is easy to unconsciously drift in life.

We unconsciously drift in life because it is easy to unconsciously take life for granted.

We unconsciously take life for granted because we are not in relationship with our mortality, so we therefore assume we have more time to action the things that matter most.

By not acknowledging, on a regular basis, the one thing in life that is guaranteed (death), we forget that life is short, and precious, and we unconsciously… drift. And the things that matter most get postponed.

And then there’s the fear that tells you not to take risks. Just play things safe. Over a life these harden into beliefs about who you are and what you’re capable of, beliefs that were never true, only protective.

All these fears grow from the oldest fear of all, the fear of death. We don’t feel it directly anymore, because most days nothing threatens our lives. But it’s still there, underneath, keeping us small.

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So - you take a job that’s meant to be temporary, and somehow it turns into the thing you’ve done for fifteen years. Your passion project remains permanently postponed. There’s a conversation you know you need to have, and you keep not having it.

Or maybe you built something, a business, a career, an identity that once suited you, but over time you changed, but the role didn’t.

You’re not failing while this happens. In fact, you may be busy and you’re good at what you do. It’s just, sometimes, you wake up and find yourself wanting to head in another direction. And after long enough, that realisation can have a way of dimming your spark for life. Your aliveness.

Maybe that describes you right now. Maybe it doesn’t, and you’re happy. Either way these questions are worth sitting with. This isn’t about beating yourself up over the years behind you. It’s just that you always get to choose what happens next, if you’re paying attention.

I call these the Aliveness Questions. They’re not supposed to be comfortable. And they’ve got nothing to do with productivity… they’re about direction and Aliveness, which is exactly why most of us dodge them, because some part of us suspects the answers will ask put us out of our comfort zones.

I come back to these questions every month or so. Before anything big or whenever I get the feeling I’ve drifted. Read them slowly, and don’t rush to get through them. The questions that sting a bit are the ones to stay with FYI.

If you have time, take 10 minutes and write down answers to these. You will be glad you did.

One for your diaries: Live coaching for paid subscribers. If you want a simple 2 minute daily practice to help you step into your fullest life, I will be hosting this live 45 minute session this Sunday August 2nd. Zoom link click here.

And if you haven’t tried the Aliveness practice mini course yet, here it is:

The Aliveness Practice

The pages below are designed to be read in order, one at a time, across a few sittings.

1. Why We Drift

2. Limiting Beliefs

3. What Is Aliveness?

4. The Ultimate Meditation

5. The Aliveness Practice

6. Go Deeper

One request this week, instead of a closing question.

Out of the 8 Aliveness Questions, which one unsettled you most? Please reply and tell me which, and why. It will inspire others.

Thank you for being here. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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John Hopkins is a former CEO, filmmaker, soul midwife and druidic bard. As I entered midlife I realised I was living a life that no longer aligned with the person I had become. So I changed direction and created Aliveness. I have a dream that Aliveness becomes as impactful as Mindfulness. A daily practice that helps people live more bravely, leave fewer regrets and build a more present and generous world.

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I’m writing this newsletter from Frome, the town in Somerset we left a year ago. My ancestral home (read that story here). Over a year ago my wife and I sold our house In Frome. We sold almost all our possessions. We took the children out of school and went travelling the world with one backpack each.

Being back on these Frome streets to visit friends is nostalgic and wonderful, and it has me thinking about the night the big change came knocking.

October 2024. For months I’d had a heaviness in my chest that wouldn’t shift. I had it checked at hospital thinking I might have heart problems. It wasn’t. I know now that the stone of anxiety in my chest was the cost of being pulled two directions.

Back then I was running a drone display business in financial trouble that I’d lovingly built over years, and I was fully committed and responsible for its survival and wellbeing. At the same time I’d trained as a Soul Midwife and was volunteering to sit with dying people at hospital in whatever hours I could find.

It was slowly dawning on me that exploring mortality was the work I was being called to do. Two futures pulling in opposite directions. I was walking into the office each day feeling physically and mentally sick. I knew that if I did nothing, my body would make the decision for me. I was sure I would develop a chronic physical illness, like cancer.

At the same time, my wife Linnea had spent several months applying for jobs that deep down felt compromised. There was a general feeling between us of misalignment with our careers, but we remained grateful for the life we had.

Then one night I was lying awake, restless, as I had been for months. BOOM. I was shown something surprising. A vision. Clear as day. Like watching a movie. I saw us selling the beloved house we had renovated. I saw us stepping away from our mortgage and debts. I saw myself stepping away from my business after a successful handover.

This decision would solve Linnea’s interview loop. We could travel the world as a family, the dream my wife and I had talked about for years and always filed under ‘someday’. This would be an investment into ourselves as a family. And the big one - after almost 25 years of hard work, we could have a well-earned pause.

One move that answered several problems at once.

I lay there until dawn turning the idea over, hunting for the flaws. But I couldn’t find them. The first challenge was to tell my wife, and there was no guarantee Linnea would like this radical concept.

On many levels we had a privileged lives. We loved Frome. The children were happy. We had friends we adored, an income, a home.

What if Linnea thought I was mad? Perhaps this was mad? It might end the relationship?

These were the fears moving through me.

A vision at three in the morning proves nothing on its own. Plenty of exhausted people fantasise about running away and it’s just avoidance in better clothes. So how do you tell the difference? Looking back, several factors marked it out.

It came after an invitation for change. For months I’d been designing a meditation where I could see myself at the end of my life, sitting with the feeling of a life fully lived, complete and without regret. I call this the Ultimate Meditation, and it is the foundation exercise of the Aliveness Practice (available to all subscribers in Tools). Back then the meditation was something I was doing to stay sane.

The vision of leaving Frome solved more than it dodged. A fantasy removes you from one problem. This solution potentially answered our misalignment and a dream we’d deferred for years, all at once.

Psychologist Carl Jung mapped this territory better than anyone. He wrote about the second half of life demanding something different from the first.

“We cannot live the afternoon of life according to the programme of life’s morning; for what was great in the morning will be little at evening, and what in the morning was true will at evening have become a lie.” (Carl Jung, ‘Collected Works’, volume eight. )

The morning after the vision came, I woke Linnea and told her I had something important to share.

We sat in bed while I laid it out. I painted the losses as vividly as the gains. What we’d feel from following our dream, but what we would also be giving up. How much leaving our home would hurt. But what an amazing adventure, full of opportunity, we could have.

We then remembered the feeling that called us to Frome in the first place. Following our instinct to move to a town where we knew no one had been a giant leap into the unknown. But that call ended up being the best decision and we both recognised that the energy of this moment, this moment of instinct, contained the same DNA.

So, despite the feeling of loss, Linnea heard the truth in the idea, and in her usual courageous manner, agreed that going travelling was what we needed to do. We don’t have unlimited days. It was now or never. Leave while the chips were up.

Somewhere in the middle of that chat we were both crying, grieving a life we hadn’t left yet but already knew we would.

We agreed to sit with with the idea for a month. To see whether we changed our minds. Over the coming weeks we both wobbled at times, but the idea held.

After the idea had passed our test, we needed our children to buy in. Not an announcement, an invitation to co-create. We wrote the kids a letter explaining the concept of travelling as a family, outlining the pros and cons. They read the letter aloud in a family meeting. It was a unanimous ‘yes’.

The sense of relief of a shared decision was powerful. And then came a feeling I hadn’t had in many years: revitalisation… as renewed energy poured into us.

These moments of clarity come to everyone if we remember to invite them in. And the solution to life’s biggest problems can at first seem frightening, or ‘impractical’. But fear isn’t evidence the decision is wrong. Usually it’s evidence that something matters.

Every time my wife and I have been brave enough to act when instinct calls, we’ve been rewarded in ways we could never have planned for. This is something we have come to expect.

Are you feeling misaligned, sick and stuck in life right now? If you know deep down that a big change is needed, here is some advice summarised as best I can:

• Invite clarity. These moments favour minds that have been asking. Try the Ultimate Meditation (free with all subscriptions). Spend time at the end of your life looking back, to gain radical clarity on your life direction.

• Notice when a big idea appears. Then test the idea for relief. Excitement is unreliable. Relief is a better signal. Notice which one you feel.

• Give the idea time. Don’t act the same day, and don’t dismiss it the same day either. A big decision survives at least a month of doubt. A fantasy usually doesn’t.

• Say the losses out loud. When you tell the person it affects most, describe what you’d be giving up as vividly as what you’d gain. Grieve it together before you decide. That conversation is where you find out whether it’s real.

• Bring people in, don’t announce. Anyone whose life this changes deserves to be part of the decision, not informed of it. See it as a co-creation.

One for your diaries: Live coaching session for paid subscribers. If you want a simple 2 minute daily practice to help you step into your fullest life, I will be hosting this live session on Sunday August 2nd. Zoom link click here.

I want to conclude by expressing deepest gratitude to my wife and kids for being brave and intrepid travel companions on this adventure we have had. It’s been a powerful experience.

Thank you for being here. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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Poet and Pulitzer Prize winner, Mary Oliver, spent four decades in one small town at the end of Cape Cod, walking the same salt marshes most mornings with a notebook in her pocket.

She never chased a bigger life. She wrote small, exact poems about grasshoppers, herons and wild geese and became the best-selling poet in America.

One summer day, Mary watched a grasshopper eat sugar out of her hand. She watched it wash its face. And then she wrote the question that has ended up on more tattoos than perhaps any other line of American poetry:

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”(Mary Oliver)

It’s easy to hear that as a pep talk, but it’s a question. The kind you’re not supposed to answer quickly, or comfortably. The kind of question that takes time to land.

This question landed on me last weekend out of left-field. I was at a festival in the UK, standing in a glorious sunlit crowd with some of my oldest friends, music loud enough to feel in my chest. For a while I felt as alive as I’ve felt all year. Fully in it.

Then, without anything changing, something shifted. The joy drained out and the question rushed in. Is what I’m building real, or just a story I’m telling myself? Do I actually know what the heck I’m doing with my life?

One minute I was inside my life completely. The next I was standing outside it, auditing it, finding it suspect. Same field. Same music. Same friends beside me. Nothing had changed except the voice in my head.

I’ve learned to recognise that voice. It visits everyone. When a life has slipped onto autopilot, it comes quietly, asking is this really it? That version is a wake-up call. It wants you to move. But there is a second version, and that’s the one that found me in the field. Louder. Sharper. It doesn’t come to wake you. It comes to stop you. It arrives when you’re already moving, right before the things that matter most.

That second voice is fear. And fear never announces itself as fear. It dresses as prudence. As maybe slow down. As who are you to do this? Imposter syndrome… Its whole strategy is to make you pull back from what you love, to protect yourself in advance from losing it.

Mary Oliver’s instruction is the exact opposite:

“To live in this world, you must be able to do three things: to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it; and, when the time comes, to let it go.” (Mary Oliver)

This is not caution. This is a licence. Because everything you love is mortal. Your people. Your body. This summer. This morning. Even this universe was born and will one day die.

Oliver’s instruction is not to pull back from any of it. It’s the opposite. Love it harder because it won’t last forever. Hold it against your bones. Let the fact that it ends be the very reason you give it everything.

That’s what our mortality can be harnessed for. Not a shadow over life. The powerful force that makes life vivid. The deadline that turns someday into today… that turns postponement into action.

One for your diaries: Live coaching session for paid subscribers. If you want a simple 2 minute daily practice to help you step into your fullest life, I will be hosting this live session on Sunday August 2nd. Zoom link click here.

Years before she died, Mary Oliver wrote a poem imagining the moment death would come for her, and what she hoped to say when it did:

“When it’s over, I want to say: all my life I was a bride married to amazement. I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.” (Mary Oliver)

Married to amazement. Taking the world into her arms. That’s not a woman bracing for the end. That’s a woman so fully alive that death becomes almost beside the point.

Mary Oliver died in 2019, at eighty-three, at home. Nobody recorded her final words. She didn’t need any. She’d written her answer forty years early and morning after morning, marsh after marsh, poem after poem, she’d lived it.

Her big question isn’t waiting for your deathbed. It’s being answered right now, in what you choose today, in how much of yourself you actually bring to this one wild and precious life.

Standing in that field the other day, I realised the doubt wasn’t evidence I was on the wrong path. It was evidence I was close to something that matters. The fear shows up precisely because I’m stepping toward more aliveness, not less.

That’s the invitation. Not to think more about death. To let the awareness of it wake you up. To stop postponing the conversation, the decision, the dream.

What would it look like this week to bring your full self to the decision you’ve been circling?

You already know. Go and be amazed.

Thank you for being here. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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We went straight to that awkward question around mortality, and how, when we stop running from this awkward subject, we can discover the secrets of living fully.

Sammy and I talked about why success without purpose leaves you restless, and how facing the fact that life is finite makes you braver, clearer, more present, and far less willing to postpone the things that actually matter.

We got into reverse-engineering your life from the end to avoid living with regret, and the difference between mindfulness and living with aliveness.

We also touched on a growing hypothesis of mine… that fear might just be an evolutionary force!

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UPCOMING EVENTS - Please put these in your diary

July 24th: Aliveness Workshop at Connect Festival, UK

Aug 2nd: Live online coaching session - The Aliveness Practice. For paid subscribers only.

Aug 13th: Aliveness Workshop at Medicine Festival, UK

I grew up in the UK feeling I had no roots or heritage in that land. My parents are American. They moved to England in the late seventies and I grew up aware that all our relatives lived across the Atlantic.

At Christmas we relied on the kindness of friends to take us in, because we had no aunts, uncles or cousins to celebrate with. In my childhood I used to long for bigger family vibes, for a motherland, for the feeling of belonging to a place and a lineage.

Over the years, almost without noticing, I became British. I fell in love with the eccentric and colourful culture, I built a life and made friends who felt like family. But that early sense of not fully belonging to a place never fully left me.

Years later, when my wife and I were living in London raising young kids, we wanted to live closer to nature and in deeper community. So we began to search for our new home. For nearly two years I researched towns and villages, mostly across the southwest, where I’d grown up near Oxford. I always loved the energy of the land and the people of the southwest.

Then, on a bright spring morning in 2018, I visited a town called Frome, in Somerset. The most mis-pronounced town in the whole of England, apparently.

It was maybe the tenth or twelfth town we’d visited, and we’d felt nothing particular about any of the others. But walking through Frome, I instantly felt something I can only describe as a life force. People were out in their gardens building things. Tinkering. There was art everywhere. The coffee shops were jammed, the park was full of families, children playing, the streets alive with people. The town had a vitality to it that went straight into my body.

A sensation starting burning in my gut. I rang my wife from the park and told her that I had the strongest feeling we’re meant to live here. She felt it too.

Live coaching session for paid subscribers. If you want radical clarity on how to live with no regrets join the live meditation I will be hosting on July 5th. Zoom link click here.

Making the decision to move to a town where we knew no one was frightening. It was a big leap. We knew almost nothing about Frome, other than a reputation of a thriving local community and creative scene. We were uprooting our young family and moving to a town on the strength of a feeling we couldn’t fully justify or explain.

This is the thing I’ve come to understand. Instinct and fear are often two sides of the same coin. The pull toward something that matters and the fear of reaching for it tend to show up at the same moment. And most of us make the same mistake. We read the fear as a stop sign. We treat it as a reason to stay where we are.

But the fear isn’t always a warning. It can be a signpost. It tends to be strongest precisely where something meaningful is waiting.

We moved to Frome anyway. Frightened, and certain at the same time.

What happened next still sounds, to me, like something I’d have rejected as too far-fetched if I’d tried to write it into one of the far-fetched film scripts I used to write in my days as a film director.

We moved to Frome and fell in love quickly. We made great new friends, the kids settled in fast, my wife got a great job and we all felt a real sense of home. And then, after about six months, my brother sent me a photocopied page from a family history book he’d come across.

Turns out our ancestors had lived in Frome in the thirteen hundreds, before they sailed to colonise America.

The same passage in the book said my ancestors had built a chapel in one of the town’s churches, with money from the king, in the 1350s. I immediately made an appointment to meet the vicar of that church.

I stood together with the vicar in this grand, ancient church, and for an hour he told me the history of my own family. He knew everything. It turned out his former wife was a distant relative of mine. And then he told me my ancestors were buried in the crypt directly beneath my feet.

And then I saw it. A brass plaque on the church wall that said JOHN CABELL of FROME.

My first two names are John Cabell. And there I was, living in Frome.

It’s hard to find words to fully describe how I felt after this experience. It felt well beyond any kind of coincidence.

For the week that followed I felt high, lifted. I walked around the town as though I were floating. Synchronicities happened frequently. I felt my ancestors close, a sense of belonging I had been missing my entire life, arriving all at once.

For the first time, I understood in my body what roots and heritage and lineage actually mean. And it happened because I had listened to my instinct.

Soon after arriving in Frome, I started a company called Celestial, and we made drone light shows in the night sky, and it grew into something beyond anything I’d imagined. We made shows around the world. The opening of Glastonbury Festival. Eurovision. London’s New Year. A headline show at the Adelaide Fringe working with Aboriginal elders and artists.

But the proudest moment of all happened in my ancestral home. Two years in a row, eight thousand people gathered in the centre of Frome one night to watch a show we made for our home town itself. And at the climax of each drone show, we wrote the name of the town in enormous letters across the sky. FROME. Vast, and glowing, above the very streets my ancestors had walked six hundred years before. You could see it for miles around.

Both times I stood in the crowd and looked up at that name in the sky, and I suddenly felt my ancestors standing beside me. The people who had built a church here with a king’s money, whose bones lay in the crypt across town, whose name I carried. I had wandered back by instinct, not knowing any of it, and now I was writing our town’s name across the heavens above our home.

“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” (André Gide)

That same instinct that called us to Frome is the one my wife and I now live by. It’s the feeling that has called us back out on the road right now, fulfilling a long held dream to travel the world with our children.

So we sold the house and let go of the version of life that was safe and known. And sometimes it feels frightening, just as moving to Frome was frightening. We still feel trepidation every time the instinct calls. The difference is that we’ve learned that the fear usually leads to treasure.

So now, when that pull comes, the one we can’t quite explain and are slightly afraid of, we’ve learned to treat it not as a threat, but as a direction. And every time we’ve trusted it, something has been waiting that we could never have planned or imagined.

This week’s question

What is the pull you keep talking yourself out of, because it frightens you?

Sit with the fear for a moment, and then ask a different question of it - what if this fear is simply showing me where my life is trying to take me?

If this resonates please write your answer here, your words will inspire others.

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Thank you for being here. Being alive, right now, is amazing. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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On New Year’s Day 2023, actor Jeremy Renner was crushed beneath a snowplow weighing more than fourteen thousand pounds.

He had stepped out of the machine to help his nephew and it began to slide. He climbed back on to stop it and was pulled under. Thirty broken bones. A collapsed lung. He nearly died on the ice while waiting forty five minutes for help to arrive.

Since the accident Jeremy says he invests only in love and in his relationships, because that is the only thing that ultimately matters. He describes himself as more open, more loved, more connected. And he said something in passing that is almost the whole of what I want to say to you today. Talking about the way he now lives, he remarked that you don’t have to be in an accident to do any of this.

He is right. You don’t. But almost everyone waits for a crisis to arrive before they make the change in behaviour.

Kylie Minogue was thirty six when she was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2005, at the height of her career, days before she was due to headline Glastonbury. She went through eight months of treatment and came out the other side.

Years later she described what the experience left her with. Not bitterness. Not fear. An acute awareness of her own body, of the love that surrounded her, of her own capability. She said that having had cancer, you are stripped down to near zero, and yet she felt more themself than ever before.

When Jeff Bridges came through non-Hodgkin lymphoma and a near-fatal bout of Covid, he said the very things you are trying to avoid, cancer, death, taught him the most about love and purpose.

Sir Chris Hoy, the Olympic cyclist now living with terminal cancer, speaks not about grand bucket-list moments but about the intense daily gratitude, the mundane fun of life, a coffee, a laugh with a friend, pausing to look out of the window and appreciate the day. He has said plainly that you do not have to be facing a terminal diagnosis to live this way.

And this message only reaches the mainstream when it’s a famous person talking. For every name you recognise here, there are millions you never will. Ordinary people, in hospital beds and on roadsides and in doctors’ offices, who will tell you that the hardest day of their life cracked something open and let the light in. That afterwards, the deep gratitude emerged. The petty worries fell away. The people they loved became almost unbearably precious.

Psychologists call it ‘post-traumatic growth’. Studying thousands of cancer patients and survivors, Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun (University of North Carolina) found the same pattern again and again: a deeper appreciation of life, closer relationships, and a renewed sense of purpose. The people who come closest to losing life often value it most.

I have spent years studying mortality, and this is one of the most consistent findings in all of it. Proximity to death reliably produces gratitude, presence, and a reordering of what truly matters. It is a law of human nature.

If you want radical clarity on how to live with no regrets join the live meditation I will be hosting July 5th. Available to paid subscribers. Zoom link will be shared nearer the time.

I have had brushes with death too. In Madrid 2002, the night Real Madrid football team won the Champions League, I was walking home after filming the celebrations when someone attacked me from behind on a dark street. The man pinned me against a car and strangled me until I passed out, never saying a word. As I lost consciousness, I was certain I was being murdered (read the full story HERE).

I woke on the street, dizzy, the horror of the attack flooding back. And underneath the shock was something I have never forgotten. A gratitude so total it was almost physical. I was alive. That gratitude stayed with me for weeks, and in truth some of it has never left.

Years later, during a sacred psilocybin ceremony I spent four torturous hours convinced I was dying, and came out the other side with the very same gift of deep gratitude (read the full story HERE).

I have had other brushes with death beyond these episodes, which led me to train as a soul midwife, and all of these experiences made me realise how often we unknowingly take life for granted. This is because we are not aware, on a deep and regular basis, that our time on this earth is limited. We forget that every moment of life is a precious miracle not to be wasted.

So why does it take a catastrophe to wake us up?

Everyone reading this already knows, intellectually, that they are going to die. It is the most certain fact of your life. And yet that knowledge sits in the head, abstract and weightless, changing almost nothing about how you spend your Tuesday.

What a crisis does is drag that knowledge out of the head and into the body. The diagnosis, the accident, the hands around your throat, these things make mortality real in a way that thinking never can. And the moment you remember your mortality, everything reorders itself. The trivial falls away. The precious becomes obvious. You wake up.

The tragedy is that most people only get this when something terrible happens. They wait, without meaning to, for a catastrophe to do the work for them. And some receive the gift only at the very end, with little time left to live inside it. But it does not have to be that way.

Gratitude is only the first half of what these people closet to death describe.

The second half is what they do with it. Jeremy Renner did not simply feel thankful. He rebuilt his life around the only thing he now believes you take with you, love, and let the rest fall away.

Chris Hoy, living with a terminal diagnosis, has not retreated. He still sets goals, still plans adventures with his family and friends, still reaches for what is ahead, while holding it all more lightly. The gratitude is the feeling. Living fully is what the feeling makes possible.

This is the entire reason Aliveness exists. While Mindfulness is a practice that teaches you presence, Aliveness is a practice for living fully. Aliveness moves the knowledge of your mortality from your head into your body, deliberately and gently, a little every day, without needing a snowplow or a diagnosis or a stranger on a dark street to do it for you.

The outcomes: that deep gratitude you know, returns. Your vitality comes racing back. The people you love become precious again. And alongside it comes the other gift, the courage to stop waiting. To choose the life you actually want while you still have the time to live it.

This week’s question.

If nearly losing your life would make you both grateful for it and brave enough to truly live it, what would change if you let yourself feel that way starting today?

Please share your answer below. It will inspire others.

Thank you for being here. Being alive, right now, is amazing. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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When I launched this newsletter in October 2025 I spent part of the day crying.

Not from sadness. From fear. I was about to put something into the world that I cared about more than anything I had made before, and I was terrified of how I would be judged.

What would people think of me, talking openly about life and death? What would old friends and family make of it? Colleagues from my creative careers? People who had known me as one thing, now watching me become another? There was a loud voice in my head saying: “everyone is going to think you’re crazy”.

I suspect you know the feeling. Almost everyone is carrying some version of this.

The job you took because it looked right to your parents. The thing you didn’t say at dinner because you didn’t want to seem difficult. The dream you shelved because you could already imagine the look on someone’s face if it failed.

We are social animals. If you wind back human history far enough to our caveman days, being cast out of the group meant death. Exclusion from the tribe was not a social inconvenience, it was a survival threat.

In a landmark study at UCLA, published in Science in 2003, the psychologist Naomi Eisenberger put people inside a brain scanner and had them play a game in which they were deliberately excluded by the other players. The scans showed that social rejection lit up the same regions of the brain that register physical pain. Being left out doesn't just feel bad. The brain processes it as genuine injury, as a threat to survival.

So the instinct to monitor what others think of us, to stay inside the circle of approval, is wired deep inside us. It is not a personal weakness. It is our ancient operating system.

When you trace that fear all the way back to its root, you find the same thing waiting there that sits beneath almost all of our fears. The fear of not surviving.

Once you see that, the fear starts to look different. The eyebrow raised at your choices is not actually a threat to your survival. It only feels that way because the wiring is old.

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” (Lao Tzu)

It is rarely strangers whose judgment we actually care about. It is the people closest to us. The peers we measure ourselves against. The parents whose approval we are sometimes still chasing decades into adulthood. The invisible standards set in school, where we first learned to rank ourselves against the room. The friend who is earning more. The sibling who took the safe path and seems, on the surface, to be winning.

We carry an invisible scoreboard, and we have appointed all of these people as judges. The trouble is, most of them are not thinking about us nearly as much as we imagine. They are busy worrying about their own scoreboard, on which we appear as one of their judges. Everyone is performing for an audience that is too anxious about its own performance to be watching closely.

Sadly, as a result of this, a great deal of human potential goes unspent. Not because people lack the talent or the desire, but because the fear of being judged for trying is stronger than the pull of trying the thing itself.

This is where the Aliveness practice can shift something fundamental.

When you begin to live each day with a sense that your time is finite, the scoreboard starts to look different. You begin to ask a sharper question about the people whose judgment you fear…

Will their opinion matter to me in the final reckoning of whether this was a life well lived?

For most of the judges on the invisible scoreboard, the honest answer is no. The opinions that genuinely matter come from a very small number of people. The ones who love you. The ones who will be in the room at the end. And, most importantly, the version of you that will one day look back on the life you actually lived.

That last judge is the one worth fearing. Not the peer. Not the critic. Not the colleague who raised an eyebrow. The 95 year old version of you at the end of your life, looking back, asking whether you had the courage to live as yourself or whether you spent your one life managing other people’s impressions of you.

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I have now learnt that the deeper I go into the work I was most afraid to be seen doing, the less frightening the judgment has become. Partly because I keep discovering it is survivable. And partly because the messages now arriving from people whose lives are changing remind me that the fear I felt was never the thing that mattered. The work was the thing that mattered.

So what actually helps, when the fear of judgment has its hand on the wheel? Notice whose face appears when you imagine being judged. Name them. Often, simply seeing that it is one particular person, or a vague composite of people who are barely thinking about you, drains some of the power from it.

Then ask whether that person will be standing beside you at the end of your life. If not, their vote on your choices carries far less weight than you have been giving it.

Then ask the only question that reliably cuts through. Not what will people think. But what will I regret. The fear of judgment shouts loudly in the moment and goes silent at the end. Regret does the opposite. It is quiet now and deafening later.

This is the work at the heart of the Aliveness Practice. Each morning, before the day and its invisible audience get hold of you, you pause and remember that your time is finite, and you ask what would actually make this day matter to you. Not to your peers. Not to the scoreboard. To you. And each evening you ask whether you lived the day as yourself or as a performance for other people.

Done daily, this slowly rewires whose opinion you are living for. The voices of the judges grow quieter. Your own voice, and the voice of the you at the end of your life, grow louder. The full practice is below, and it is free. It is the most direct way I know to loosen the grip of other people’s expectations and start living as yourself.

I still feel it, by the way. Every time I publish something that goes near the bone, there is a flicker of how will this be judged. I don’t think that ever fully disappears, and I’m not sure it should. Perhaps the fear is just the price of doing something that matters.

The difference now is that it no longer gets a vote on whether I do it.

This week’s question.

Whose judgment are you still organising your life around, and would their opinion really matter to you at the end?

Sit with the honest answer. It might show you exactly where your life is waiting for you.

Thank you for being here. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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Most of us spend our lives protecting what we have. Not because we are selfish, but because we are unknowingly acting from a place of fear. This newsletter explores Bob Marley's famous words on living for others, where that fear actually comes from, and the incredible changes that occur when we stop letting it run the show.

“Live for yourself and you will live in vain. Live for others, and you will live again.”

Bob Marley didn’t put these twelve powerful words on a poster. Like so much of his timeless wisdom, he wrote them it in the middle of a song called Pass It On, tucked between the other verses, not announced or explained.

Bob Marley grew up with almost nothing in Trenchtown, Kingston. His Rastafarian faith was built around a specific idea: that Babylon, the system of accumulation and self-interest, was the root of human suffering, and that the only way out was through community, sharing, and living in service to something larger than yourself.

In 1978, Marley organised the One Love Peace Concert in Kingston to try to unite Jamaica's two warring political factions. Two days before a previous concert he had been shot for attempting exactly this. He performed anyway. On stage that night he brought the two political leaders together and joined their hands above his head. That is what service looks like when it costs you something.

Before we explore what Bob’s famous quote means, we need to understand why most people are inclined to protect our own interests first, before those of others.

The reason is fear.

At its deepest level, fear is not about the thing you think it is about. Not money running out. Not status disappearing. Not failure. These are the surface forms.

Research on Terror Management Theory, has demonstrated something uncomfortable: underneath our everyday anxieties, driving more of our behaviour than we realise, is the awareness that we will die. The unconscious mind responds by prioritising survival above almost everything else.

The equation the unconscious runs is: more resources means greater safety. And so we accumulate, rather than share. We actually hoard not just money but time, energy, attention and love. We have become conditioned to hold things close in case we run out.

This pattern does not stop at individuals. The same fear that drives a person to accumulate beyond what they need also drives communities and nations to do the same thing.

Countries who prioritise their own self-interests, stockpile wealth and military power for the same unconscious reasons people fill their houses with things they never use. Even thought we live in a world of abundance, with easily enough resources to go around, the fear of future scarcity keeps attention fixed on getting rather than giving.

The result is a world where vast amounts of human energy go into protection and control rather than generosity and collective flourishing.

I can trace this in my own life with uncomfortable clarity. For most of my adult life I had been building a career for myself.

As a film director I wanted to make great art, but I was also interested in status, accumulating wealth, ambition. There was a joyful frivolity to the films I made and I enjoyed success in what I did, but there wasn’t much deeper purpose at play. In fact, one of my best friends once said to me: “Why don’t you make something that actually means something?” That hit hard, and I am still grateful to this day for those words.

When I started my drone entertainment company Celestial in 2020, my spiritual horizons had shifted. I wanted this new, epic artistic medium in the sky to inspire people from within. I wanted the art to be in service to something larger. But I made a fatal compromise with my co-founder at the very beginning.

I agreed to prioritise commerciality over artistic integrity, rather than insisting on a balance between the two. It seemed very sensible at the time... get the business making money first, then make great art. But that compromise had a knock on effect that the company was, at its foundation, oriented around building value in the business rather than creating art that inspired.

That self-protective decision shaped a lot of serious issues that followed, both with the business and inside myself. On reflection, even though I though my desire to serve others had changed, I realise I had unconsciously remained in service to myself. Still acting from fear. Still protecting. This lead me to becoming physically and mentally sick over time, and ultimately onto the path I am on today.

Bob Marley’s sage line is not just philosophy. It is a description of something structural. The self-focused life is, in the end, less durable than it appears. And this is not just my experience talking. The science backs it up.

Elizabeth Dunn, Lara Aknin and Michael Norton published a study in Science in 2008 tracking people’s happiness in relation to how they spent their money. Across countries and income levels, they found that spending on others produced significantly more happiness than spending on oneself. The effect was consistent whether people were wealthy or not. This is not a spiritual claim. It is a measurable one.

Generosity becomes easier not because people become more virtuous, but because they are no longer quite so threatened by the fact that life is finite.

It is no coincidence that billionaires are often the same people most obsessed with living the longest. The very people who have hoarded the most resources are now spending fortunes funding longevity companies, trying to outrun the one thing their wealth cannot buy them out of.

At its heart, this is not about health. It is about the fear of ending. The same fear that drove the accumulation in the first place.

And this is where Bob Marley’s vision becomes something larger than personal transformation.

When this shift happens not just in individuals but in communities and nations, something changes at a different scale. The scarcity mentality that drives so much of what is wrong with the world has, at its root, the same fear that drives a person to hoard what they don't need or postpone a conversation they know they should have.

A world that has made genuine peace with their mortality would share more readily. Communities would become less territorial. The inequality we have built is, in no small part, the architecture of collective fear.

Which brings me to what Bob Marley actually understood about living again. When you begin to live for others, the experience of your own life changes in ways that are hard to describe without sounding like a greeting card.

When you are in service to others, you come back to life. I know this from my own experience, as someone who spent almost twenty years putting myself and my family first.

The work feels lighter as there is less of the grinding resistance that comes from doing something primarily for your own benefit. A certain emptiness inside disappears. The successes carry more meaning because they carry someone else’s weight alongside yours. The setbacks feel less personal because the thing you are building is no longer just about you.

There is an abundance that comes from this shift that surprises people. Not always more money, though often that too. More opportunity. More connection. More of what actually makes a life feel worthwhile.

Plus - living for others does not have to be grand. Most of the time it isn't.

• It is making eye contact with the person serving your coffee and actually seeing them.

• It is asking someone how they are and waiting for the real answer.

• It’s volunteering in your local community.

• It is giving your children your full attention rather than half of it while your phone glows in your hand.

• It is remembering what a friend told you last week and following up without being asked.

• It is putting someone else's need ahead of your own schedule for ten minutes, even when ten minutes feels like something you can't spare.

None of this costs a thing. All of it is felt.

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” (Gandhi)

Which is the whole point. Because your legacy is not your house, your wealth or your status. It is how you made others feel. The people who live longest in memory are never the ones who accumulated the most. They are the ones who gave something.

Thank you Bob, for having the strength to overcome your struggles, for seeing the love in humanity, and for everything you gave. It wasn’t easy.

Thank you for the lives you touched, and continue to touch today.

Your truth lives again each time I play your most excellent tunes.

This week’s question.

Where in your life are you still protecting something that could be given away instead?

Not money necessarily. Time. Honesty. Presence. The thing you have been holding back. What would open up if you let it go?

Thank you for being here. Make the most of the time you have.

Live happy,

Hoppy

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ALIVENESS

A philosophy and practice for living fully in the awareness that life is finite.

Dear readers,

Over the past few months I’ve written about mortality, regret, purpose, courage, presence, relationships and what it means to live fully. This has evolved into Aliveness.

The problem is that these Aliveness ideas are scattered across dozens of essays and videos. It means it’s never been very clear where to begin. So I’ve simplified everything and wanted to sum everything up in a more practical newsletter this week.

Why Practise Aliveness?

Many people don’t consciously choose their lives. They drift into them. A routine becomes a decade. A dream gets postponed. An important conversation gets delayed. We assume there will be more time. But “later” has a habit of becoming years.

This is how drift happens. And drift eventually becomes regret. Regret slowly eats you up from the inside.

Aliveness exists to interrupt that trajectory.

By bringing mortality back into view on a daily basis, life becomes more precious. Priorities sharpen. Decisions become easier. We stop taking life for granted and stop postponing what matters. We start living fully.

START HERE: THE ALIVENESS PRACTICE

This is a simple six-step pathway designed to revitalise your life. Please note: these sections have been designed to work best when done in this order.

1. Why We Drift

2. Limiting Beliefs

3. What Is Aliveness?

4. The Ultimate Meditation

5. The Aliveness Practice

6. Go Deeper

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What’s Free?

I’ve made a conscious decision to keep the core practice itself accessible to free subscribers. I want as many people as possible to benefit. Free subscribers receive:

• Weekly essays

• The complete six-part Aliveness Practice

• The Aliveness Questions guide

What’s Included In Paid Membership?

Everything above, plus:

• The extended Aliveness Practice eBook

• Monthly live Ultimate Meditation sessions (first one this Sunday)

• The extended Ultimate Meditation audio, recorded by me

• Access to my bespoke AI guides Reverstory & LivePurpose

These are all available on TOOLS.

My intention is simple: Free helps you begin the practice. Paid helps you deepen it.

If you haven’t explored the new sections yet, I’d encourage you to start with Part 1:

Why We Drift

Understanding why we drift is the first step towards changing it.

Thank you for being here. Don’t postpone your life.

Live happy,

Hoppy

P.S. I’m also launching a coaching programme designed to help senior leaders make the first irreversible move toward a soul-aligned life before drift, burnout, or crisis makes the decision for them. If this is you, get in touch (hello@aliveness.be). I’ll share more about that soon.

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"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" (Mary Oliver)

Most people do not consciously choose their lives. They drift into them.

The reason is surprisingly simple: without a conscious relationship with mortality, it is easy to take life for granted. We assume there will be more time. More time to pursue the dream, repair the relationship, take the trip, start the business, or become the version of ourselves we’ve been postponing.

• A temporary job becomes a career.

• A new relationship becomes a routine.

• A city that was meant to be a stopover becomes the place you’ve lived for fifteen years.

Nothing dramatic goes wrong. Nothing is exactly wrong at all. And yet a quiet question begins to form:

Is this it?

Most people don’t say it out loud. From the outside, life looks fine. From the inside, something feels missing. They are postponing important things, making safe decisions, and drifting as though time were unlimited.

The real danger is not drift itself. The real danger is feeling dead inside, and over time, regret starts to form.

This is not a personal failing. It is not weakness or a lack of discipline. You are running ancient software.

For hundreds of thousands of years, the human brain evolved with one primary objective: keep you alive. Stay safe. Avoid danger. Avoid death. Today that same software still runs beneath the surface, shaping decisions through:

• Fear of failure
• Fear of judgement
• Fear of rejection
• Fear of change
• Fear of uncertainty

Most people think they are making conscious choices. In reality, they are often following ancient instructions designed for survival rather than fulfilment.

To make matters worse, we live in one of the few cultures in history that hides mortality from view. Death is taboo - rarely discussed, rarely contemplated, and rarely treated as a teacher. Yet mortality is the very thing that gives life urgency, meaning, and perspective.

→ Continue: Limiting Beliefs

1. Why We Drift 2. Limiting Beliefs 3. What Is Aliveness? 4. The Ultimate Meditation 5. The Aliveness Practice 6. Go Deeper

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” (Joseph Campbell)

When fear runs your decisions for long enough, something quiet happens. You stop believing certain things are possible for you.

You don’t notice it as fear anymore. By the time it has been running your life for a while, it doesn’t feel like fear at all. It feels like reality. It feels like who you are. It feels like simple, sensible truth about what you can and cannot do.

These are limiting beliefs. And almost everyone has them.

None of these are facts. They are stories our outdate operating system (aka Ego) has been telling you, often since childhood, to keep you safe inside a smaller life.

The Ego does not want you to leap. It wants you to stay safe. So it builds a wall of beliefs around the edges of who you think you can be, and tells you the wall is the world.

The wall is not the world. But here is what happens when you live inside it long enough. You start to feel a bit dead inside.

Not depressed exactly. Not unwell. Just less.

• The morning has less in it.

• The conversations feel slightly hollow.

• The weekend ends and you can’t quite remember what was in it.

You catch yourself going through the motions of a life that, somewhere deep down, you know is not the one you wanted.

This is the deepest cost of running this ancient software. Not just that you make safe decisions. Not just that you postpone what matters. But that, slowly, you stop being fully alive inside your own life. You shrink to fit the wall. And the wall keeps shrinking.

And the question that has been sitting underneath everything finally has space to surface.

Am I actually living the life I want - or just the life I drifted into?

That question is where Aliveness begins.

→ Continue: What Is Aliveness?

1. Why We Drift 2. Limiting Beliefs 3. What Is Aliveness? 4. The Ultimate Meditation 5. The Aliveness Practice 6. Go Deeper

“It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.” (Marcus Aurelius)

Aliveness is the practice of noticing our limitations, and stepping past them, on purpose, in the time you have left.

You don’t need a new productivity system. You don’t need to optimise your morning routine, biohack your sleep, or read another book on purpose.

What you need is something older and simpler. A relationship with the fact that your life is finite.

When you remember, really remember, that your time is limited, things shift. Decisions become easier because you know what actually matters. The small daily compromises you’ve been tolerating start to feel intolerable. The conversations you’ve been avoiding start to feel urgent. The big questions you’ve been postponing start to feel like the only questions worth answering.

You stop drifting. You start choosing. That is what Aliveness is for.

Most wellness practices ask you to be more present, more positive, more productive. Aliveness asks something different.

It asks you to remember that you will die - and then to live as if you do.

Not to frighten you. To free you.

There is a difference between mindfulness and Aliveness worth naming.

What Aliveness is NOT

Aliveness is not hustle culture. It is not toxic positivity. It is not an instruction to quit your job, leave your life, and move somewhere exotic. It does not ask you to blow anything up.

It asks you to look honestly at the life you have, decide what actually matters to you, and then live it with more courage and less postponement.

For most people, the changes it asks for are smaller and braver than they expect.

What changes when you practise Aliveness

When mortality stops being a taboo in your own life, the change is not subtle.

People describe a kind of clarity they had forgotten was possible. The kind that makes decisions easier, because you know what matters and what doesn’t. A reduction in low-grade anxiety, because you stop trying to control what was never yours to control. More presence - in conversations, with your partner, in the ordinary moments you would previously have moved through without noticing. More courage. Less procrastination. Less performing.

Aliveness is not another wellness tool.

It is a philosophy and a practice that sits above all of them - bringing together mindfulness, purpose, courage and conscious life design into one simple framework, built on the one conversation the modern world forgot to have.

It is what gets left when you take out the performance and the pretending and ask the question underneath everything.

What does a life well lived actually look like for me?

The next page is where we find out.

→ Continue: The Ultimate Meditation

1. Why We Drift 2. Limiting Beliefs 3. What Is Aliveness? 4. The Ultimate Meditation 5. The Aliveness Practice 6. Go Deeper

Most people make decisions from where they are now.

They look at the next job, the next year, the next relationship, the next decision - and try to choose well from the middle of their own life. It rarely works. From the middle, everything looks urgent. Everything competes. Everything matters.

There is a better place to make decisions from: the end. Not in a morbid way. In a clarifying way.

If you imagine yourself at the end of a long, well-lived life, looking back with a feeling of peace and completion, something happens that does not happen any other way. The noise drops away. The competing priorities become quiet. The things that actually matter rise to the top, and the things that do not fall away on their own.

This is the central insight of the Aliveness Practice.

Design your life from the end, not from the present.

The Ultimate Meditation is how you find that vantage point. It is the single most important practice in the entire Aliveness Practice, the one everything else flows from. Once you have done it, even once, you have a compass. A sense of what a life well lived actually looks like for you. Everything else, the daily practice, the weekly review, the annual redesign, is in service of that vision.

This is why it is called the Ultimate Meditation. Because it is designed to be the only meditation you will ever need and it asks the ultimate question:

What does a life well lived look like for me?

You can do it now. Read slowly. Read as if you mean it. If you can, find somewhere quiet, sit comfortably, and read it like a soft voice you are following.

An expanded audio version of the Ultimate Meditation, recorded in my voice, is available to paid subscribers at the bottom of this page, and in TOOLS.

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Recording Insight

Write down what came. The feeling most of all.

What does a life well lived look like for you?

And then ask yourself the harder question: What am I currently doing - or not doing - that is taking me away from that life?

What are you postponing? What decision are you circling? What version of yourself are you not yet living?

That answer is your compass.

A note on this practice

The first time you do this, the vision may come clearly. Or it may not. That is normal. Some people see the room, the people, the feeling all at once. Others sit with very little for a while, and then something quiet surfaces, a single image, a single word, a single feeling. Either is right. The practice is not the picture. The practice is the orientation.

Return to this meditation regularly until your vision feels clear. Then come back to it a few times a year. On your birthday. At New Year. Before a major decision. On retreat. Whenever you feel lost. The compass needs occasional recalibration, but once you have it, you have it.

Going deeper with this practice

An expanded audio version of the Ultimate Meditation, recorded in my voice, is available to paid subscribers below and in TOOLS.

Many people find the meditation lands more deeply when they can close their eyes and follow a voice rather than read.

For those who want to take the practice further still, paid subscribers also have access to Reverstory — an AI guide that reverse-engineers your life from the end in conversation form. It does what this meditation does, but in dialogue. It helps you see the regrets you may be heading toward, so you can course correct now.

Once a month, paid subscribers gather on Substack Live for a guided Ultimate Meditation together. Join us for the next one.

→ Continue: The Aliveness System

1. Why We Drift 2. Limiting Beliefs 3. What Is Aliveness? 4. The Ultimate Meditation 5. The Aliveness Practice 6. Go Deeper

Below is the extended Ultimate Meditation audio, recorded by John Hopkins.

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The Ultimate Meditation gives you the destination. The compass. But a compass on its own does not get you anywhere.

You need rhythms. Small, repeated moments that bring you back to that vision before life pulls you away from it. Otherwise the meditation becomes another beautiful experience that slowly fades - and a few months later, you are drifting again.

The Aliveness Practice prevents this with three simple rhythms.

One for the day. One for the week. One for the year.

You design the year. You course-correct the week. You live the day.

That is the whole architecture.

The Daily Practice

Many people lose their lives one ordinary day at a time. Not dramatically. Just slowly. A Tuesday becomes a Wednesday becomes a year, and very little of it leaves a trace.

The Daily Practice prevents this with two short moments - one in the morning, one before sleep. Each is built around a single question. Both together take less than two minutes.

Courage does not have to be dramatic. On most days it is small. Sending the message you have been avoiding. Saying no to something that does not serve you. Starting the thing you keep putting off. Telling someone what you actually think. Small acts of courage, practised daily, are what change a life over time.

The key is taking action, each day, no matter how big or small. Do one thing that scares you. That is progress.

The weekly practice is about small course corrections.

A week is short enough that nothing has gone too far wrong, and long enough that real patterns are visible. Done consistently, this single habit prevents most of the drift that ruins a decade.

The whole system

Lifetime. Year. Week. Day.

Four rhythms. One direction.

That is the Aliveness Practice.

Making it stick

The most common failure point is not difficulty. It is forgetting.

The daily practice takes less than two minutes. The weekly review takes twenty. Neither is difficult. What is difficult is remembering to do them when life is moving fast.

Start with the morning question only. Do it for one week before adding the evening. Attach the weekly review to a fixed time — Sunday evening works for most people. And when you fall off the practice, which you will, do not treat it as a failure. Simply return. The practice is not something you complete. It is something you come back to.

The people who benefit most from Aliveness are not the ones who do it perfectly. They are the ones who keep returning to it.

Going deeper with the practice

For paid subscribers, three things support the practice over time.

The Aliveness Practice eBook - a beautifully designed, expanded guide of the full practice, formatted to print, keep, return to. The companion document to everything on this page.

LivePurpose AI - an AI guide that supports the bigger reflective work the Annual Practice points at, particularly around purpose and direction.

Reverstory - the AI guide that reverse-engineers your life from the end, in dialogue form. A natural companion to the Ultimate Meditation.

These are all available in TOOLS, alongside the expanded Ultimate Meditation audio track, recorded by John.

→ Continue: Go Deeper

1. Why We Drift 2. Limiting Beliefs 3. What Is Aliveness? 4. The Ultimate Meditation 5. The Aliveness Practice 6. Go Deeper